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On my way home for lunch the question popped into my head why so many adults (myself included) were/are so enchanted by Harry Potter.

I don't know why you care about Harry, but to me, he speaks to the child in me that in fifth grade, when I was eleven, just like Harry at the beginning of the series, looked at her mother and her brother one day and concluded that she must have been adopted because she couldn't understand how the people she called family could make her feel so insignificant and unwanted. To me, Harry represents the idea of rescue, the hope that our real family is somewhere out there. And he reminds me that the family doesn't necessarily choose the child. At some point the child also needs to choose the family.

Date: 2012-02-17 01:46 am (UTC)
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I initially was hooked on the writing itself - JKR really knows how to get readers to keep turning the page. But once I discovered fanfic (H/D in particular), I became obsessed with finding subtext alluding to the attraction between Harry and Draco. And now I can't read the books without that added fanon dimension.

Date: 2012-02-17 02:45 pm (UTC)
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I was mostly fascinated by the world she created. I wish I had such an imagination!!!

I'm with you on the fanon dimension, though. And some fanfics are actually better than the original series (Shadow of His Wings comes to mind).
Edited Date: 2012-02-17 02:46 pm (UTC)

Date: 2012-02-17 06:47 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
While I'm not a die-hard fan, I did enjoy them quite enough to both read and watch the whole series. I think I relate somewhat to your own reasons. I always liked to think that my -real- family was out there somewhere and that they would acknowledge my being in the way I wanted acknowledgement. My own family was not much like Harry's (they were more smothering), but nonetheless the thought of a new, different, and magical 'family of choice' appealed to me greatly as a kid and the appeal remains for grownup!me. I almost shudder to think what might have happened if I'd been a kid when the books were published...I think my longing for such a place might have been intolerable. ^_^

Date: 2012-02-17 08:33 pm (UTC)
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I am definitely glad I wasn't a kid at the time the books first came out! I was reading a lot of adventure stories when I was that age and I desperately wishing for something special and exciting to happen in my life.

My family wasn't like Harry's either - thank goodness! I just was the oldest child in the whole family (all my cousins are several years younger than me) and sister to a younger brother who was very difficult as a child and my parents and grandparents were always worried about him. My earliest memories are of being told to be reasonable and considerate and mature because I was the eldest - which I was until I turned 17, and then quite a bit of hell broke lose. All delayed temper tantrums, I suspect. :)

The funny thing is, my brother to this day accuses our parents and grandparents of neglecting him while I distinctly remember that they worried and talked about him so much that I felt no matter how well I did, I wasn't as important as he was. Odd, isn't it?

Date: 2012-02-17 09:20 pm (UTC)
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I often hear of these sorts of expectations being placed on the eldest child, which I find rather unreasonable since kids need time and space to be kids.

Is your brother maybe referring to emotional neglect? I'm not sure "neglect" would be quite the proper word, but as someone whose parents were worrying/discussing me a lot I thought there was a kind of emotional dysfunction...I felt treated like a toy or specimen a lot. Of course I might be way off base here. In any case, I can see where that was/probably still is a frustrating situation.

Date: 2012-02-17 09:57 pm (UTC)
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Well, we both grew up with a lot of expectations but without much communication. My mom was barely 20 when I was born, my dad was 28 and, according to my mom, didn't want children while she always wanted a big family. They were very focused on each other and I often wonder if we kids would have turned out less insecure and a bit happier in life if they had shown us a little of the affection they clearly had for each other.

I'm not sure what my brother is referring to, but I told him last year that I remember how our parents and grandparents were always worried about him and he was completely astonished and didn't believe me.

Date: 2012-02-18 06:42 pm (UTC)
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Expectations + lack of communication is definitely a good recipe for stress. Could be they never communicated to your brother that they were worried, and you had to bear the brunt of it? (Sorry if I'm presuming or prying, I tend to get a bit too analytical at times.) But yeah, to see them be affectionate with each other but not receive much of it must have been somewhat alienating/confusing.


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